The Blame Game

esther Ukaria
Nov 1, 2023
2 min read

"A person becomes free the day they acknowledge their problems"

You trained your kids, and they became adults but couldn't find a job.

As a result, they caused your poverty in old age without taking into consideration that you never planned for your retirement.

Your new business went bankrupt. The word on the street is that your wicked friends and family jinxed you. What if your business failed due to insufficient planning and concrete survival strategies.

Insulin levels, daily fluctuations in your weight, and now obesity is your best friend.

But the office chef is to blame because of his many mouth-watering desserts during lunch breaks.

5 years married without a day of peace, love and growth.

Every day, you send your pastor death threats saying he pushed you to marry a monster, forgetting the premonitions and red fags before saying I do.

Over the years, many of us have played the blame game, using it as a medium to punish others, to escape being reprimanded and avoid difficult situations.

During a conversation with a confident last night, I pondered the times I took the wrong pathways due to desperation, lack of research, and societal pressure. These choices led to grave mistakes for which I used to hold others responsible, forgetting that despite the pressure, I had the willpower to say no and make better choices.

In a nutshell, the tendency to blame others for our problems is highly contagious and can spread like wildfire. Just take a look at our communities.

However, if we consciously choose accountability over blame, we can reduce its impact. Continuing with this blame culture could lead individuals to extinction or suffer from mental breakdown.

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